In Christ? (Part 1) Does My Significant Other Truly Draw Me To Christ...?

This is something that's really been burdening my heart...

I've heard a lot of people saying lately that the person they're dating makes them desire to be more godly, and sometimes it's true and I can see it. Other times that's not what I see, so please, I implore you... I want to challenge you to make a close examination of your relationship, whoever you are, based on this.

Let me ask you something. If you are not actively in a walk with God, if you can't remember the last time you spent time in devotion with God or time you spent in prayer for the sake of fellowship with Him, or the last time you actively served God... Then how can you say that any significant person in your life is driving you to live for God more or love Him more greatly? If you can't for yourself remember any of those things, then no matter what everyone around you believes and no matter how much you want it to be true, you have no business saying it or trying to make it true that they are driving you to Christ.

Listen. If your significant other, perhaps the person that you already care for and love deeply, is not actively, sincerely pointing you to God, and you aren't doing the same for them, then this is not someone you should be committing the rest of your life to. Ladies, if he doesn't call you to live godly now, then he will not lead you that way in marriage. Men, if she doesn't call you to live godly now, then she will not support you that way in marriage. The strength of a godly marriage is to love the Lord First! If the person you're dating doesn't commit to God then they won't commit to you. In the end, love for each other, no matter how deep, is not enough. Love is supposed to be a triangle, where you and your partner meet because you both are dependent and focused on God. Only if THE focus of your relationship and both your lives on God is enough, and there will be far more pain when the struggles of life come, and they will come, if you aren't both on the same page in this - not only in words, but in deeds. If you don't depend on God together when things are easy and drive each other to Christ now, what makes you think that either of you will in hardship when life gives you nothing?

These are questions you need to ask. Or I promise - Scripture promises - that you will encounter unnecessary hardship in the later years of your life. So check yourself, please... Do they truly draw you to Christ? Do you draw them?


Post "In Christ?" (Part 2) to come: "Respect Vs. Shame, And What's the Honorable Path?"